Sexual Glossary |
| 69 |
Simultaneous
fellatio and cunnilingus. |
| A |
Anal
sex. |
| A-Levels |
Anal sex. |
| Abstinence |
Refraining
from all sexual activity |
| Abstinence
Only Curricula |
Sexuality
education programs that advocate sexual abstinence before marriage. They
do not provide information about contraception, safer sex, or sexual orientation. |
| AC/DC |
Bisexual. |
| Active |
The aggressive
sexual partner |
| Agate |
A small
penis |
| Age
of Consent |
The age
at which one is considered old enough to decide to have sexual intercourse. |
| Age
of Majority |
The age
at which one becomes a legal adult. |
| Age
play |
Role playing
involving pretending to be a child and often wearing children's clothing.
Adult babies. |
| AIDS |
(Acquired
Immune Deficiency Syndrome) A set of conditions associated with the last
stages of HIV disease |
| Algolagnia |
Another
word for sadomasochism (SM) Algolagnia is when pain is transformed into
sexual pleasure |
| Alternative
sexuality |
A sexual
orientation with a few variations that differ from vaginal intercourse when
a monogamous heterosexual relationship has been established |
| Alternative
lifestyle |
Sexual
preference that is very different from the "norm," making it necessary
and/or desirable. If the alternative sexuality is less common than the norm
it will push the individual to reach an accepted subculture |
| Alveoli |
Sacs inside
the breast that produce milk |
| Androgens: |
Certain
hormones that stimulate male sexual development and secondary male sex characteristics.
They are most abundantly produced in the testicles of men but are also produced
in small amounts in women's ovaries. The most common androgen is testosterone |
| Androgynous
/ Androgyny |
One who
is / the quality of simultaneously exhibiting "masculine" and
"feminine" characteristics. Androgyny: A person psychologically
intermediate between male and female; or a person who rejects a specifically
male or female gender role. |
| Animal
play |
When one
or both partners pretend to be an animal (Ex: dog, horse) in a role play |
| Anal
/Anal intercourse |
Using
the rectum for Sexual Intercourse |
| Anilingus |
Kissing
and penetration of the anus by tongue |
| Anorgasmia |
The inability
to have an orgasm. |
| Anus |
The opening
of the rectum |
| Aphrodisiac |
A substance
that is supposed to increase sexual desire |
| Areola |
The dark
area surrounding the nipples of women and men |
| Around
the world |
Kissing
the entire body before sex |
| Asexual |
Absence
of sexual feeling |
| Auto-eroticism |
Masturbation |
| Auto-fellatio |
Performing
fellation on ones own penis |
| Auto-sadism |
An act
whereby one inflicts pain on oneself |
| AW0 |
Anal without
a condom.
|
| Back
scuttle |
Perform
anal intercourse |
| Bag |
The scrotum |
| Back
yard |
The buttocks |
| Balanitis |
An inflammation
of the glands and foreskin of the penis that can be caused by infections
(including sexually transmitted infections) irritations, drugs, or other
factors. |
| Ball |
A wild
sex activity |
| Balls |
The testicles |
| Banana |
The penis |
| Bare-assed |
Nude |
| Bareback |
Sex Without
a condom |
| Barrier |
Methods
of Birth Control Contraceptives that block sperm from entering the uterus.
These are the condom, vaginal pouch, diaphragm, cervical cap, and spermicide.
|
| Bartholin's
Glands |
Glands
in the labia menorah on each side of the opening to the vagina that provide
lubrication during sexual excitement. |
| Basket |
The bulge
of male sex organ in clothing |
| Basket
shopping |
Observing
the male organ through clothing |
| Berdache |
Male-to-female
and female-to-male cross dressers who were accepted and performed a variety
of roles in various North American Indian societies. The word in its original
language is negative, so one sociologist writing about these individuals
has used the terms man-woman and woman-man |
| BBBF |
Bareback
butt fuck |
| BBBJ |
Bareback
blow job |
| BBF |
Bareback
fuck |
| BBW |
Big beautiful
woman |
| BDSM |
In the
beginning it was called sadomasochism(sm, s/m or s&m.) People involved
in sadomasochism were described as bad, sick and pervert. Since some people
did not want to be called or described that way, terms like dominance and
submission (d&s, ds or d/s), love bondage and bondage and discipline
(b&d) were invented to be different from sadomasochists. In the 90's
during the internet revolution all kinky people were establishing arguments
to label their kinks. After months of arguments the term bdsm was born.
Most of the kinky people were happy after the term was issued. BDSM combines
bondage and discipline (bd), dominance and submission (ds) and sadomasochism
(sm.) |
| BJ
Blow job |
A strange
term for fellatio |
| Beat
off |
Masturbation |
| Beefcake |
Male possessing
sex appeal |
| Biastophilia |
A paraphilia
in which sexual arousal becomes dependent on sexually attacking a non consenting,
surprised, terrified, and struggling stranger. This is a kind of rape, but
most rapes are committed by normophilic men. |
| Bigendered |
One who
switches between masculine and feminine gender roles from time to time. |
| Bimanual
Exam |
Physical
examination of the internal reproductive organs of the pelvis. |
| Biphobia |
The oppression
or mistreatment of Bisexuals, especially by lesbians and gay men. (See homophobia.) |
| Birth
control |
Actions
which prevent pregnancy because of sexual intercourse |
| Bi-sexual |
Engaging
in sexual activities with members of both sexes |
| Bisexual/Bi |
A person
who has sexual and emotional relationships with both women and men, though
not necessarily at the same time. |
| Bitch |
A loose
woman or feminine male |
| Bladder |
The organ
that collects and stores urine produced by the kidney. The bladder is emptied
through the urethra. |
| Blind |
An uncircumcised
penis |
| Blow
job |
The act
of oral intercourse |
| Blue
balls |
Severe
need to experience sexual orgasm. The genital aching that may occur when
men do not have an ejaculation following sexual stimulation. Women may experience
similar aches if they do not reach orgasm, but because of sexist influences
in development of our language about sex, there is no common expression
to describe a woman's symptoms. |
| Body
Image |
One's
attitudes and feelings about one's own body and appearance. |
| Bondage |
When restraints
are placed on the body in any practice to avoid any type of movement |
| Bondage
and Discipline |
Also known
as B&D, it involves several sexual practices like bondage, slave training,
corporal punishment and dominant/submissive role play |
|
Boston Marriage |
Used primarily
in nineteenth century New England to refer to two women who set up a household
together for an extended period of time. Some Boston marriages were undoubtedly
lesbian in nature, but others were probably platonic. |
| Bring
off |
Ejaculation
in the male |
| Bronco |
Young
boy who is difficult to restrain during sex |
| Brown |
To perform
anal intercourse |
| Brownie
queen |
Passive
partner in anal intercourse |
| Brown
shower |
Another
name for hardsports |
| Brut
service |
Facial,
Cumming over the prostitutes ( Splash it all over ) |
| Bull
dagger |
An extremely
masculine lesbian. The term is often used negatively. |
| Bugger |
To perform
anal intercourse |
| Bull-dyke |
A masculine
female homosexual |
| Bummer |
Active
partner in anal sex |
| Buns |
The buttocks |
| Butch
|
A lesbian
who prefers traditionally masculine dress, style, expression, or identity. |
| BV
(Bacterial Vaginosis) |
An inflammation
of the vagina (vaginitis) that is caused by a change in the balance of vaginal
bacteria. |
| Camp |
Behave
in an effeminate manner, an affectation usually done in humour which might
involve a satirical or sarcastic depiction of the opposite sex. |
| Candida |
A type
of yeast and the most common cause of vaginitis. |
| Caning |
The use
of a cane on a bottom |
| Castration |
Render
the testicles inoperable by surgery |
| Cat
or cat o' nine tails |
Originally
it was a whip used by the British Navy. Actually it is referred to all whips
which are multi-thonged |
| CD |
Cross
dresser, cross-dressing. |
| Celibacy
|
Not having
sex play. |
| Cervix |
The narrow
lower part of the uterus (womb), with an opening connecting the uterus to
the vagina. |
| Chancroid |
A sexually
transmitted bacterium that causes open genital sores. |
| Change
your luck |
To engage
in a gay sex for the first time |
| Chaste |
To engage
in ordinary sexual activities |
| Chastity
Belts |
A variety
of devices designed to prevent women, men, or children from having sex.
Used from medieval to modern times, these devices were also supposed to
preserve morality. Some were meant to ensure fidelity in women in the absence
of their husbands. Others were designed to prevent masturbation and nocturnal
emissions in men and boys. |
| Cheat |
To be
unfaithful to one's sex partner |
| Chemical
Castration |
The use
of Depo-Provera to decrease sexual desire and arousal. |
| Cherry |
One who
is still a virgin, |
| CIM |
Come in
mouth |
| Circumcision |
Surgical
removal of the foreskin |
| Chlamydia |
A common
sexually transmitted organism that can cause sterility in women and men. |
| Clap |
Gonorrhoea
or other venereal disease (std) |
| Climacteric |
The time
of change that leads to menopause. The physiological midlife changes for
women and men |
| Climax |
To achieve
the high point of sex activity |
| Clit |
The clitoris |
| Clitoral
Hood |
A small
flap of skin that covers and protects the clitoris. |
| Clitoris
|
A small
erectile organ located in the forward area of the wife's vulva. Stimulation
of the clitoris during foreplay and sexual intercourse can enhance the wife
chances of an orgasm |
| Closet |
The confining
state of being secretive about one's homosexuality |
| Closet
queen |
A male
homosexual who hides his desires for men |
| Closeted |
Hiding
one's sexuality or gender predilection from others or the public. Closet
case. |
| Code
word(s) |
Word or
words that are used in personal ads to unnotice sexual proclivities mostly
unacceptable in society. Ex: French or Greek culture, clean, discipline,
strict, leather, etc. |
| COF |
Cum On
Face. |
| Cohabitation |
Living
together in a sexual relationship. |
| Coitus |
Sexual
intercourse |
| Coitus
in ano |
Anal intercourse |
| Coitus
interruptus |
Withdrawal
of the penis prior to ejaculation |
| Cold |
Unresponsive
to sexual relations |
|
Colposcope |
A viewing
instrument with a bright light and magnifying lens that is used to examine
the vagina and cervix. |
| Come
out |
To acknowledge
one's homosexuality, either to oneself or to others; most often a public
declaration of being lesbian or gay. |
| Completion |
Orgasm.
For example, OWO to completion means until you cum |
| Comparison |
Warm happy
feelings experienced when noticing ones loved ones enjoying loving relationships
with others. The opposite of jealousy |
| Conception |
The moment
when the pre-embryo attaches to the lining of the uterus and pregnancy begins;
term also used to describe the fertilization of the egg with a man’s
sperm |
| Condom
|
A sheath
of thin rubber, plastic, or animal tissue that is worn on the penis during
sexual intercourse. It is an over-the-counter, reversible barrier method
of birth control, and it also provides protection against the most serious
sexually transmitted infections. |
| Consensual
|
An agreement
made by parties for certain type of behaviour or activities. When the consent
is informed and there is a reasonable knowledge of possible risks is called
true consent. |
| Continence |
To refrain
from sexual activity |
| Contraceptive |
The prevention
of pregnancy; birth control. |
| Corpus
Cavernosa |
Two strips
of tissue that lie on each side of the urethra in the penis. During sexual
excitement, they fill with blood to create an erection. |
| Corpus
Spongiosum |
The tissue
that surrounds the urethra inside the penis and is responsible, like the
corpus cavernosa, for an erection; also the type of tissue that forms the
glands of the clitoris and the penis. |
| Corona |
Rim of
flesh which forms the base of the head of penis |
| Cowgirl
|
A position
for sexual intercourse - the man on his back, the woman sitting on top. |
| Cowper's
Glands |
The glands
beneath the prostate gland that are attached to the urethra. They produce
a substance that makes seminal fluid sticky. |
| Covered |
With a
condom |
| CP
|
Corporal
punishment. You used to be able to get this in return for stealing things,
but it doesn't work that way any more |
| Crabs |
Lice which
infect the pubic area of the body |
| Cremaster
Reflex |
An automatic
response to stimulation (for example, cold temperature or touching the inside
of the thigh) in which the cremaster muscle pulls the scrotum and testes
closer to the body. |
| Creampie |
Ejaculation
in the vagina (or anus) without a condom |
| Cross
dresser |
A person
who occasionally dresses in the clothing of the opposite sex for sexual
or emotional pleasure, or both. The most commonly-used term, having replaced
transvestite. May be male or female, hetero- or homosexual, bi- or solo
sexual, and may partially or wholly cross-dress. |
| Cross-dressing |
The practice
of dressing in clothes traditionally assigned to the opposite gender; also
called transvestitism or drag. |
| Cryptorchidism |
The condition in which one or both of the testicles do not descend from
the lower abdomen before puberty. |
| Cum
|
Semen |
| Cum
facial |
Same as
facial |
| Cunnilingus |
Stimulation
of the woman’s genital area, especially the clitoris, with the husband's
lips and tongue. |
| CWM |
CyberWhoreMonger.
A punter who uses the Internet in connection with his paid-sex activities.
This is mainly an American term, and contrasts with CyberCourtesan. |
| Date
Rape |
Coerced
sexual intercourse during a dating relationship. |
| Delayed
Ejaculation |
Commonly
used term for inhibited orgasm in men. |
| Depo-Provera® |
A progestin
that is injected into the buttock or arm every 12 weeks to prevent pregnancy.
It is a reversible method of birth control available only by prescription. |
| Diaphragm |
A soft
rubber dome intended to fit securely over the cervix. Used with contraceptive
cream or jelly, the diaphragm is a reversible barrier method of birth control
available only by prescription. |
| Dirt |
Sex slave
members who's checks bounce |
| Discipline |
The other
part of Bondage (B&D) that could also mean punishment or a structured
training of a submissive. |
| Doggie
style |
A position
for sexual intercourse - the woman on her knees, the man entering from behind. |
| Dominance |
dominance
and submission, D/S, D&S Used for erotic enhancement, one partner uses
consensual empowerment for the other partner. In SM, dominance and submission
are the psychological and emotional underpinnings. |
| Dominant,
Dom, Domme, Domina, Dominatrix |
The person
that in a consensual exchange of power is in charge. If the person is a
male is called dominant or Dom; if is a female is called a Domme, Domina
or Dominatrix |
| Don
Juanism |
The desire
by a man to have sex very frequently with many different partners. |
| Dose |
Gonorrhoea
or other venereal disease (std) |
| Douche |
A spray
of water or solution of medication into the vagina. |
| DP
|
Double
penetration, one penis in the vagina, another in the anus |
| Drag
queen |
Male who
dresses in female clothing |
| Dry
fuck |
Moving
against one another, clothed to simulate intercourse |
| Dyad |
A sexual
love relationship consisting of two primary partners |
| Dyke |
A lesbian |
| Dyspareunia |
Painful
intercourse for women that may be caused by hormonal imbalances, especially
those that happen after menopause. |
| Early
Ejaculation |
Ejaculation
occurring before a man wants it to occur. |
| Eat
|
To perform
oral intercourse |
| Ectopic
Pregnancy |
A life-threatening
pregnancy that develops outside the uterus, often in a fallopian tube. |
| Effeminate |
Descriptive
of a male who acts in a feminine manner |
| Egg |
The reproductive
cell in women; the largest cell in the human body. |
| Ejaculation |
Discharge
from the penis during sexual climax |
| Ejaculatory
Inevitability |
The moment
during sexual excitement when a man cannot stop his ejaculation. The prostate
begins contracting and pulsing out seminal fluid. |
| Emergency
Contraception |
The use
of oral contraceptives or IUDs to prevent pregnancy after unprotected intercourse.
|
| Emergency
Hormonal Contraception |
The use
of oral contraceptives to prevent pregnancy after unprotected intercourse. |
| Enema |
An instrument
or injecting fluid into the anus to flush the lower intestines. In SM scenes
enemas are used for humiliation, for preparation for other activities (fisting
or anal sex) and/or for pleasure. |
| Epididymis |
The tube
in which sperm mature. It is tightly coiled on top of and behind each testis.
The plural of Epididymis is epididymides. |
| Epididymitis |
An inflammation
of the Epididymis |
| Erectile
Dysfunction |
The inability
to become erect or maintain an erection with a partner. |
| Erection
|
The sexual
aroused state cause by a rush of blood into the veins and capillaries of
the penis, coupled with a valve action which prevents its release, and further
aided by the contraction of certain surface muscles on the penis, all of
which combine to keep it in a hard and extended configuration until the
stimuli is taken away or ejaculation occurs |
| Erogenous
Zone |
Any area
of the body very sensitive to sensual touch. |
| Erotic |
That which
is sexually arousing. |
| Erotica |
Sexually
arousing imagery that is not considered pornographic, obscene, or offensive
to the average person. |
| Erotophilia
|
Appreciation
of the erotic |
| Erotophobia |
Fear and
anxiety about the erotic. |
| Erotic
restraint |
When movement
is restricted for erotic play. It is also referred to the devices used |
| Escort |
A person
who sells companionship and may offer Sex |
| Estrogen |
A hormone
commonly made in a woman's ovaries. Estrogens major effects are seen during
puberty, menstruation, and pregnancy |
| Eunuch |
A male
who has had his testicles removed |
| Exhibitionism |
A paraphilia
in which sexual arousal becomes dependent on exposing the sex organs to
those who will be surprised. |
| Exhibitionist |
A person
who derives sexual gratification by displaying his body to others
|
| Facial
|
This is
where you spunk over her face |
| Faeces |
Solid
waste that leaves the body through the anus. |
| Fake
Orgasm |
The pretence
of having reached climax in order to end sex play or please a partner. |
| Family
jewels |
The testicles |
| Fanny |
Same
as pussy, cunny, quim, etc. (This definition is provided for the benefit
of Americans, who generally have a very strange idea of what a fanny is.)
|
| Fellatio |
To kiss,
nibble, lick or cock-sucking |
| Female
Circumcision |
The practice
of removing a girl's clitoral hood, clitoris, and/or the labia; often called
female genital mutilation. This is practiced in some African, Near Eastern,
and Southeast Asian cultures. |
| Female
Impersonator (FI) |
A male
who, on specific occasions, cross dresses and employs stereotypical feminine
dialog, voice, and mannerisms for the entertainment of other people. |
| Feminine |
The "gender
role" assigned to "females". |
| Fetish
|
Excessive
or irrational devotion to some activity, a sexual interest in an object
or a part of the body which someone is interested in to an extreme degree
of worship with excessive devotion |
| Fetishistic
Transvestite |
A Transvestite
who consistently eroticizes Cross Dressing. May also eroticize fantasies of gender/sex change. |
| Fifth
wheel |
A heterosexual
in a homosexual group |
| Fisting |
The art
of inserting the whole hand inside the vagina or anus |
| Flagellation |
Whipping
or beating to sexual orgasm |
| Foot
fetish/ Foot worship |
Sexual
obsession toward feet or shoes |
| F->M |
Female
to male. Used to specify the direction of a sex or gender role change. |
| Foreplay |
Physical
and sexual stimulation (kissing, touching, stroking, and massaging) that
often happens in the excitement stage of sexual response; often occurs before
intercourse, but can lead to orgasm without intercourse. |
| Foreskin |
A retractable tube of skin that covers and protects the glands of the penis.
|
| FOC |
Free of
charge |
| FR |
Field
report, a written report of an experience with a prostitute by a client |
| French |
French
sex. Another term for fellatio. TO PERFORM ORAL INTERCOURSE |
| French
kissing |
Deep kissing,
tongue kissing. |
| FS |
Sometimes
means full sex, but sometimes means full service |
| FTM |
female
to male, as in cross-dressing or a transsexual |
| Full
house |
Having
more than one venereal disease (std) at the same time |
| Full
service |
Bit vague,
but generally means full sex and fellatio |
| Full
sex |
Vaginal
intercourse |
| Full
strip |
Should
mean that she takes all her clothes off - but beware that she may have a
different idea of the meaning. |
| FWO |
French
without [a condom]. Same as OWO or BBBJ. |
| Gang-bang |
An occasion
on which several men successively have sexual intercourse with one woman,
Usually organised parties |
| Gay |
Homosexual |
| Gaydar |
The uncanny
and seemingly innate ability lesbians and gay men tend to have to recognize
and detect one another; from gay and radar. |
| Gear |
Any equipment
used for scene purposes |
| Gender |
The social-cultural
expression of a person's biological sex (or self-perception of one's sex,
which may vary from the strictly biological). Sometimes used to mean expressly
male or female. |
| Gender
Dysphoria (GD) |
Unhappiness
or discomfort experienced by one whose sexual organs do not match one's
gender identity. |
| Gender
Identity |
The self-perception
of being male or female, or a combination of the two. |
| Gender
(identity) community |
People
who identify as transvestite, transsexual, or Tran gendered, or as members
of the gender community. Members of the gender community do not necessarily
identify as members of the sexual minority community. (See "transgender
community".) |
| Genderfuck |
Sending
mixed gender messages, especially through appearance, such as wearing a
prom dress, combat boots and a moustache. |
| Gender
neutral |
Clothing,
behaviours, thoughts, feelings, relationships, etc. which are considered
appropriate for members of both sexes. |
| Gender
outlaw |
A person
who flouts the usual gender roles. |
| Gender
role |
Arbitrary
rules, assigned by society, that define what clothing, behaviours, thoughts,
feelings, relationships, etc. are considered appropriate and inappropriate
for members of each sex. Some clothing, behaviours, etc. are considered
appropriate for members of both sexes. Which things are considered masculine,
feminine, or neutral varies ccording to location, class, occasion, and numerous
other factors. |
| Genitals |
The human
reproductive organs |
| GFE
|
The prostitute
provide a girlfriend type experience, ( treats you like her girlfriend,
kissing, etc) |
| Give
head |
To perform
oral intercourse |
| Glans |
The soft,
highly sensitive tip of the clitoris or penis. In men, the urethral opening
is located in the glands. |
| Go
down on |
To perform oral intercourse |
| Golden
shower |
Another name for watersports. One person urinates on another for sexual
pleasure. |
| Gonorrhoea
|
A sexually
transmitted bacterium that can cause sterility, arthritis, and heart problems.
(std) |
| Greek |
To perform
anal intercourse |
| G-string
|
A small
brief worn over the genitals |
| HBV
(Hepatitis B Virus) |
An infection
that can be sexually transmitted and may cause severe liver disease and
death. |
| Half
& half |
An
American term for French and sex. |
| Hand
job |
Masturbation,
particularly at the hands of another |
| Hard
on |
An erect
penis |
| Hardsports |
Defecation
in a sexual context. Usually means that the prostitute shits over the client,
or at least for the client to watch. |
| Hermaphrodite |
One who
has both a penis and a vagina. |
| Hetrosexual |
One who
has significant sexual and romantic attractions primarily to members of
the opposite sex. |
| Heterosexism |
The assumption
that identifying as heterosexual and having sexual and romantic attractions
only to members of the other sex (than oneself) is good and acceptable,
and that other sexual identities and attractions are bad and unacceptable.
The assumption that anyone is straight whose sexual orientation is not known,
usually coupled with a "blindness" to the existence and concerns of Lesbians/Bi/Gays |
| HIV |
(Human
Immunodeficiency Virus) An infection that weakens the body's ability to
fight disease and can cause AIDS. |
| HJ |
Hand-job.
Same as hr |
| Hobby
|
The "hobby"
is punting |
| Hobbyist |
Euphemism
for a man who frequents prostitutes. A (habitual) punter |
| Homophobia |
Literally,
the fear of homosexuals and homosexuality, sometimes merely implied, but
often taken to the point where biased statements are made or biased actions
are taken against lesbians and gay men. |
| Homophobe |
One who
is afraid of or oppresses people because one (perceives them to) have sexual
and romantic attractions to members of the same sex. |
| Homosexual |
One who
desires sex only with the same sex |
| Hormone
therapy |
Used
to change secondary sex characteristics, including breast size, weight distribution,
and facial hair growth. |
| Horny |
Sexually
aroused; passionate |
| Horse
around |
To explore
sexually without engaging in intercourse |
| HPV |
(Human
Papilloma Virus) Any of 90 different types of infection, some of which may
cause genital warts. Others may cause cancer of the cervix, vulva, or penis. |
| HR |
Hand relief.
Same as HJ |
| H/S |
Hardsports |
| HSV |
(Herpes
Simplex Virus) An infection that can be sexually transmitted and cause a
recurring rash with clusters of blistery sores on the vagina, cervix, penis,
mouth, anus, buttocks, or elsewhere on the body. |
| Humiliation |
Part of
the erotic control to embarrass or to humble someone by teasing them about
their sexual desires. In SM humiliation, ironically, can build a person's
self-esteem by reinforcing their sexuality. |
| Hustler |
Prostitute
that searches for customers |
| Hyperphilia |
Having
sex more often than most people. |
| Hypoactive |
Sexual
Desire The lack of sexual desire. |
| Inclusive
relationship |
An intimate
sexual love relationship in which all partners have agreed to form a synergistic
group and in which each dyad is warm and trusting. The existing relationship
may expand to include more people with mutual consent. |
| Identify/ied
(as) |
To think
of oneself as having a particular sexual |
| identity
or gender identity. |
[I "identify
as" a bisexual. I am bi-"identified".] To emphasise that
an identity term refers to one's internal reality, as opposed to what others
think or observe of one, "self-identify" is sometimes used. |
| Identity |
How one
thinks of oneself. One's internal self, as opposed to what others observe
or think about one. |
| Impotent |
Unable
to engage in sexual intercourse |
| Incall |
Where
the client visits the prostitute. Opposite of outcall. |
| Infantilism |
Infant-like behaviour in role play by wearing diapers, nursing, etc |
| Intersexual |
A person
biologically between female and male, sometimes with genital and/or reproductive
body parts of both sexes. Replaces hermaphrodite. At one time meant homosexual |
| Jack
off/ jerk off |
To masturbate |
| Jealous |
Resentfully
envious or suspicious of rival influences. |
| Jealousy |
Neurotic
anxiety based on fear of losing control over a partner one regards as a
possession. |
| Jock
Itch |
A very
common fungal skin infection in the genital area of men that is caused by
wearing tight clothing, sweating, or not drying the genitals carefully after
bathing. It can cause a reddish, scaly rash that can become inflamed, very
itchy, and painful. |
| John |
One who
financially supports another for sex favours/ also known as client or punter
|
| Kicks |
Sexual
thrills |
| Label |
How someone
else sees or thinks of oneself or others. |
| Lace
curtains |
The foreskin
of the penis |
| Latex |
Material
used to make fetish items like clothing |
| Lavender |
Pertaining
to the homosexual lifestyle |
| Lay
|
To perform
sexual intercourse |
| Leather,
Leather sex, Leather lifestyle |
A synonym
for SM used in fetish fashion and gear. |
| Lesbian |
A female
homosexual. A woman who has significant sexual and romantic attractions
to members of the same sex, or who identifies as a member of the lesbian
community. Bisexual women often do not feel included by this term. |
| Libido |
Sexual
appetite |
| Limit |
In SM
are the boundaries set by the dominant and the submissive for what to will
or to will not do within a scene. Limits must be respected and applied to
roles, levels of dominance and submission, time and also activities like
whipping and paddling. |
| Load |
The fluid
from an ejaculation |
| M->F |
Male to
female. Used to specify the direction of a sex or gender role change. |
| Macho |
Describing
extreme masculinity which may involve the subordination of women. Machismo. |
| Male
Impersonator |
A female
who, on specific occasions, cross dresses and employs stereotypical masculine
dialog, voice, and mannerisms for the entertainment of other people. |
| Masochism |
Where
sexual gratification is achieved by pain |
| Masculine |
A highly
subjective concept of the essential qualities of a man. |
| Master |
When the
man takes control in the SM role play. |
| Massage
parlour |
Usually
a brothel. This is illegal in the UK but is tolerated in many areas - although
official toleration, as in Edinburgh, is rare. |
| Masturbation |
Manual
manipulation of genitals |
| Matinee |
A sex
session in the afternoon |
| MFS |
Massage
and full sex |
|
Mish |
Missionary
position |
|
Missionary position |
Woman
on her back, man on top facing her |
| Mistress |
When the
woman takes control in the SM role play. |
| MMF |
A male-male-female
threesome |
| Molluscum
Contagiosum |
A virus
that can be sexually transmitted, causing small, pinkish-white, waxy, round,
polyp like growths in the genital area or on the thighs. |
| Môn
gendered |
One who
is comfortable in only one gender role? (Do people actually use this, or
is it just a syntactic extension of "bi gendered"?) |
| Môn
sexual |
One who
has significant sexual and romantic attractions primarily to members of
one sex. Straight, Gay, Lesbian. Someone who is not Bisexual |
| "Morning-After"
Pills |
Emergency
hormonal contraception that is taken within 72 hours of unprotected intercourse.
|
| MTF |
Male to
female, as in cross-dressing or a transsexual. |
| Multiple
Orgasms |
More than
one orgasm occurring within the same sexual encounter. |
| Mutual
masturbation |
Where
partners manipulate each other's genitals |
| Narcissism |
One who
is stimulated by one's own body |
| Novice |
A person
with lack of experience in SM, but willing to learn. |
| Nuts |
The testicles |
| Nymphomania |
The desire
by a woman to have sex very frequently with many different partners. |
| "O" |
Oral sex |
| Obscenity |
Sexually
arousing imagery that is considered socially offensive. |
|
O-levels |
Oral sex |
| Old
dirt road |
Using
the anus for intercourse |
| One
way |
Will perform
only one type of sexual activity |
| Oral
intercourse |
A sexual
activity whereby the mouth of one per-is used in connection with the sexual
organs of another person to produce sex gratification |
| Oral
|
Oral
sex. Either fellatio or cunnilingus - usually the former in the context
of punter talk. |
| Orgasm |
The peak
of sensation during sexual activity |
| Other
|
sex/gender
The other sex or gender than the reference person's own. [She has another
sex partner (than her own sex).] [Are you currently in a relationship with
a member of the same sex (as yourself)?] |
|
OTK |
Over the
knee (spanking) |
| Out
[someone] |
To disclose
a second person's sexual identity to a third person, especially without
the second person's permission. 2. To disclose one's own sexual identity,
sometimes without choosing to do so. |
| Outcall |
Where
the prostitute visits the client's home or hotel. Opposite of incall |
| Outer
course |
Sex play
that does not include inserting the penis in the vagina or anus. |
| OWO
|
Oral without
[a condom]. Same as FWO or BBBJ. |
| Paedophilia |
Sexual
love/attraction of a child by an adult |
| Passing
|
Cross-dressing
well enough to be seen as a member of the opposite sex. |
| Passive |
The person
receiving intercourse |
| Pearl
diver |
One who
performs oral sex on the penis |
| Pearl
necklace |
This is
where you cum/spunk over her breasts/shoulders/neck |
| Pederasty |
Insertion
of the penis into the anus |
| Peeping
tom |
A voyeur |
| Pegging |
A woman
wearing a strap-on dildo
to penetrate a male or female anus. |
| Penis |
The male
sex organ consisting of head, shaft and base |
| Perineum
|
The area
between the anus and testicles, anus and vagina |
| Petticoat
discipline |
Punishing
or humiliating a boy by dressing him as a girl. |
| PID |
(Pelvic
Inflammatory Disease) An infection of a woman's internal reproductive system
that can lead to sterility, Ectopic pregnancy, and chronic pain. It is often
caused by sexually transmitted infections such as gonorrhoea and Chlamydia. |
| Play |
Taking
part of a SM scene or scene activity. |
| Pony
training |
Transformation
of a male or female into a pony to be ridden, to pull a carriage or a well-trained
horse in obedience |
| Power
exchange |
Sexual
role-playing when one acts as the dominant and the other the submissive. |
| Pre-cum
juice |
Natural
lube which oozes from the penis piss-slit |
| Pre-operative
transsexual |
(Pre-op
TS) One who is actively planning to switch physical sexes, mostly to relieve
"gender dysphoria". Probably, but not necessarily, "cross
dresses", takes "hormone therapy", and gets "electrolysis". |
| Primary
relationship |
A committed,
long term, live in sexual love relationship which may or may not include
marriage and/or shared economy. |
| Primary
sex organs |
Penis
(male) or vagina (female.) (See "female", "male", "hermaphrodite",
"neuter".) |
| Pro |
A prostitute |
| Provider |
A prostitute |
| Prostate |
Glands
at base of urethra which ejects semen |
| PSE |
Porn Star
Experience |
| Punter |
A prostitute's
client |
| Pushover |
Easily
persuaded to engage in sex |
| PVC |
Poly-vinyl-chloride
Plastic used for fetish clothing or pipes used for bondage devices. |
| Queen |
An effeminate
male homosexual |
| Quickie
|
A very
brief sex act |
| Rape |
Forcibly
perform sexual intercourse |
| Rectum |
The tube
between the colon and the anus |
| Reverse
|
Means
the opposite way round to that which is most common between a prostitute
and her client. For example, "reverse oral" means cunnilingus
and "reverse massage" means the client massaging the prostitute. |
| Rim/
rimming |
When one
person licks and kisses their partner's anus like oral sex on a female,
except to the anus instead of the vagina |
| Ring
On Pinky |
Wearing
a ring on the little finger of the left hand has for much of the twentieth
century been a code for homosexuality |
| RLD |
Red-light
district |
| Rubber |
A condom |
| Russian
|
A tit
fuck |
| Sadism,
sadist |
Sexual
pleasure that results from pain, humiliation and/or domination. The sadist
delivers pain or humiliation to the people desiring it by respecting their
limits and by being caring and careful. |
| Sadomasochism,
SM |
Sexual
practices in an advanced level where pain , humiliation and power exchange
are being used. SM has also dominance and submission, bondage and discipline,
love bondage and erotic spanking. |
| Safe,
sane and consensual |
In the
SM community are characteristics of acceptable play. During activities,
players take safety precautions or they do not participate in practice that
could injure mentally or physically their partners. Before the activities
they consent by negotiating. |
| Safer |
Sex Ways
in which people reduce the risk of getting sexually transmitted infections,
including HIV. |
| Safe
Word |
A previously
agreed upon signal that means a partner is no longer enjoying a sexual activity
and it must stop. |
|
Sandwich |
Another
term for DP |
| Scat |
Another
term for hardsports |
| Scene |
The SM
or fetish community or a SM session or occurrence during play. |
| Scissor |
Position
where two females rub their genitals against each other. (Also dangerous,
as it is effectively bareback sex). |
| Score |
To achieve
sexual intercourse |
| Screw |
The act
of sexual intercourse |
| Scrotum
|
The pouch
or sac which contains the testicles |
| Secondary
relationship |
An ongoing
sexual love relationship in which the partners usually do not live together,
and do not consider their relationship a first priority |
| Semen |
The fluid
produced during ejaculation of the male |
| Sex |
On its
own often means vaginal intercourse |
| Sex
hormones |
Substances
produced by the testes, ovaries and adrenal glands in different quantities
in females and males which promote bodily sexual characteristics. Certain
hormones artificially taken by men can grow breasts. Other hormones taken
by women can grow facial hair and lower the voice. |
| Sexual
identity |
How one
perceives oneself as male, female, or in between. A biological female may
identify as a male and vice versa. |
| Sexual
love |
The synergic
fusing of love and sexuality into a single erotic emotion in an intimate
relationship. |
| Sexual
orientation |
How a
person chooses to have sex -- with the same or opposite sex, with both,
with oneself, or not at all (asexual). |
| Sex
reassignment surgery (SRS) |
Surgery
to change, within the limits of surgical possibility, a person's genitals
to those of the other sex (and retain the possibility of sexual stimulation).
In male-to-female conversion, the penis is converted to a vagina. In female-to-male
conversion, the challenge has been to create a version of a penis |
| Sex
Worker: |
One who
is paid for providing sex or sexually arousing conditions, including prostitution,
striptease, lap dancing, commercial phone sex, and erotic massage. |
| Significant
Other |
One's
chosen romantic partner. |
| Sixty-nine |
Genital
oral intercourse performed on each other. simultaneously by two partners |
| Slave
|
A submissive
that is involved in a slave/master fantasy. |
| Slave
training |
The instruction
of a submissive in a dominant's preference. The submissive’s behaviour
is conditioned. |
| SM
Sado-masochism. |
See also
BDSM |
| Smash |
A young
woman's crush on another woman. The term was used in late nineteenth century
and early twentieth century women's colleagues. |
| Smegma |
White
matter which collects under the foreskin of penis |
| Sodomy
|
The insertion
of the penis into the anus |
| Solid
sports |
Another
term for hardsports. |
| Solo
sexual |
Having
a preference for sex with one's self (a term invented by Valory Gravois;
please advise if there is a better existing word) |
| Snowballing |
The action
of kissing to exchange cum immediately after CIM. |
| Spanking |
Striking
or paddling a submissive in their butts. |
| Sperm |
The fluid
that erupts from the penis during ejaculation |
| Spoons |
A position
for sexual intercourse - both partners lying on their side, with the man
behind the woman. |
| Stallion
|
A male
who possesses a very large penis |
| Sexually
Transmitted Diseases (STD’s) |
Sexually
Transmitted Infections (STIs): Infections that are often or usually passed
from one person to another during sexual or intimate contact. Please refer
to here for details. http://www.homehealth-uk.com/medical/gumclinics.htm
If worried please use this link http://www.playingsafely.co.uk/worried/where/where_can_i_get_help.asp
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| Straight |
A heterosexual |
| Straight
sex |
Vaginal
intercourse |
| Stud |
A male
who is in great demand as a sex partner |
| Suck
off |
To perform
oral intercourse on the penis |
| Sugar
daddy |
A man
who keeps a younger person for sexual favours |
| Swallows |
Means
that she swallows your cum |
| Swinger |
One who
accepts free love doctrine |
| Swish |
A male
who behaves in a feminine manner |
| Switch |
When a
person trades places in a SM role or physical play. Ex: top or bottom, Dom
or sub. It is also a tree or bush branch used for corporal punishment. |
| Switch
hitter |
A bi-sexual |
| SWO |
Sex without
[a condom]. Same as BBF |
| Testicles |
The male
reproductive glands |
| TG |
Transgender |
| Third
sex |
Homosexuals |
| TLC |
Tender
loving care |
| Tomboy |
A girl
who prefers the activities, privileges and dress of boys, and avoids female
restrictions; sometimes used to describe adult women. |
| Tongue |
(verb)
To perform oral intercourse |
| Toolbox |
The male
genitals |
| Torture |
Painful
actions used to enhance sexual pleasure. |
| Trade |
A passive
male prostitute for homosexuals |
| Training |
Discipline
used by the Dom to control the sub's behaviour, condition and/or attitude.
Pony training, anal training, position training, voice command response,
etc. can be used for training. |
| Transgender |
An umbrella
term for those who blur the lines of traditional gender expression. |
| Transgendered
(TG) |
One who
switches gender roles, whether just once, or many times at will. Inclusive
term for transsexuals and transvestites |
| Transvestite |
A person
who dresses in the clothes and assumes the gender expression of the opposite
sex. |
| TS,
Transsexual |
A person
that mismatches his/her personal psychology. They go for counselling, hormone
treatments and surgery. Before surgery a transsexual is referred as a "pre-op"
TS and after surgery is a "post-op" TS. |
| Transvestite
(TV) |
One who occasionally dresses in the clothing of the opposite sex for sexual
or emotional pleasure, or both. Can be male or female, hetero- or homosexual,
bi- or solo sexual, and may partially or wholly cross-dress. Some have felt
the word is a negative medical term; cross dresser and cross-dressing are
more commonly used today. Transvestism, tranny |
| Triad |
The most
basic and common form of multi-partner relationship, consisting of three
adult primary partners, usually two of one sex and one of the other. threesome |
| Uncovered |
Without
a condom |
| Unisex |
Not pertaining
to one sex only. Unisex clothing can be worn by both traditional sexes.
A unisex hair salon invites customers of both sexes. Unisexual |
| Urethra |
Duct which
carries urine and semen |
| Urolagnia |
Sexual
pleasure from watching another drink urine |
| Vacuum
cleaner |
One who
applies great suction during oral sex |
| Vagina |
Orifice
of female sex organs |
| Vanilla
sex |
Any non
kinky sex acts |
| Versatile |
Bi-sexual |
| VFM |
Value
for money |
| Vinyl
|
Material
used for fetish fashions |
| Virility |
The sexual
power and capacity of a male |
| Voyeur |
One who
gains sexual satisfaction from watching others undressing or engage in sexual
acts |
| Walk-up |
This is
a type of establishment that is common in Soho (including Chinatown), A
walk-up has an open door leading into a flat (or two or three) in each of
which a prostitute works. They advertise mainly by means of a note by the
entrance saying "model" and usually giving some details. |
| Watersports |
Urination
in a sexual context. Usually means that the prostitute pisses over the client,
or at least for the client to watch. |
| WG |
Working
girl, same as prostitute/escort |
| Wham
bam |
Rapid
and hurried sexual activity |
| Wiener |
The penis |
| With |
Often
means "with a condom" |
| Without |
Often
means "without a condom" |
| Whip
|
Object
that can be also a cane, crop, paddle or slapper, or a single or multiple-lash
whips to beat a submissive. |
| Working
girl |
Euphemism
for a prostitute |
| Work
up |
To create
passion or to be passionate |
| Worship |
To lavish
attention to a body part (Ex: feet.) Also, a role playing attitude toward
a dominant. |
| W/S |
Watersports |
| X-frame |
A bondage
frame in the shape of an "X" in a horizontal position |
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